Friday, December 21, 2012

Fool's Paradise

Lets talk today about the fool's paradise - marriage! Not all may agree.. but when did I write about agreeable stuff anyways..

So as far as those who have woken up from the amazing Matrix set around us in reality.. Marriage is glorified slavery. Tie down someone no matter what.. 'u happy not happy.. baby u married' No questions asked. 
Lets define marriage - It kills what two ppl shared as individuals and turns them into these zombies tied down by fragile, recycled papers and with a million expectations of everyone whose business it is not. 
Its not a cynical definition, its how we spend our life. I did not wake up today n decide to kick the ass of this ridiculous institution. But I wanna talk about it.. why not. 

Its where you see lawyers lust at you because you wanna have that one recycled piece of paper to separate you from someone you are long over with. Unlike a wedding, no one really comes to be with you. You are alone. 

We are waking up to the disgraced treatment metted out to women in this land of democracy n blah blah bullshit. No one gets spared you see. We maybe city girls. We maybe really good. We may not be sleeping around. But we roam around with a tag. A tag that is already entrusted on us. The tag with which everyone is going to talk to you. 

I would like to leave it all behind. I would like to start afresh. I would love to fall in love. But nope, the judgement is not going to leave me alone. I cannot simply marry someone. I will be tried, tested with fire before I am approved. 
I will be married to out of pity, sympathy or maybe money if I end up earning that much. 

I want to love, be loved.. for who I am. Its not simple I realized. And one failed marriage somehow is a PHD  in learning to live for yourself with ample love. You don't need judgments, you don't need nosy relatives and you don't need people to sniff your pussy for anything wrong. Curiosity can kill the libido as well forget the cat. 

'You can't be married and innocent.' It makes you wise. It teaches you public relations and people skills. Most of all, manipulation. 

This institute and the perpetual lie of monogamy for life was started for selfish purposes- that of inheritance. Who will the property go to after I die..ohh my blood ofcourse! As long as we were nomads, we were not mad. Then settlement demanded a society, a God that needed to be feared.. so everything was conveniently created. Our brains started working accordingly. Religion happened, mytho stories happened and now they are deeply rooted in our system. 

I am against a system which says this is the only way to be with someone. I feel its only in individual freedom will he/she choose to be with someone but out of choice. That is the way of life. And I had the privilege to be a part of such undefined relationships where words and we both were out of place but the heart was at home n peace. 

No judgement.


Monday, December 3, 2012

What is Forever?

Our eternal belief, ingrained deep inside us - forever. We love everything which is forever. We want everything to last forever. We buy things that will last forever or at least wish they would.

Our relationship with forever decides our relationships as well. Who just falls in love today? We fall for an idea of forever. Anything that makes us feel better in the moment, wanting to make it last for a lifetime..we make our pick accordingly.
We do not invest in anything without a guarantee. It is ok with life insurance policies or lifetime membership of clubs. But I wonder if most of us will ever wake up to letting some things in life just take their own course.

We plan so much, we feel life is in our control. And when life surprises us which it is supposed to, we come up with all the drama to pacify ourselves.

Nothing is forever. This moment is forever. When I love someone and I want them forever its in this moment.    
You understand this once you have lived through a forever. You will realize its not a forever. Its till change do us apart.

I am Me and I can be a different Me and same is the case with you. If we still yearn and long for each other while we grow yes we can deal with a forever.

Its forever that is ever changing and we have no option but to brace ourselves and take it in our stride. Then, we won't be disappointed.